You're Carrying Too
The Lighter the Load
The Faster The Journey
Just today I got an email from someone with whom I had a bit of a falling out with. It was a professional disagreement that spilled over into affecting our personal relationship. The email was a response to a short email I sent checking in and making sure that he was alright. Almost immediately the door had been open to a reconciliation. Although I was completely ok with the tension as I felt the betrayal had warranted, I cannot explain to you how much lighter I felt once the that door to forgiveness and understanding had been open.
I am not even particularly close with this person, aside from the scenario that brought up the conflict, it is conceivable that I would not see this person for a period of months. But the power of shaking off the weight of a situation that you regret is so liberating that even small instances can be transformative.
People Smarter Than Me!
This isn’t a profound realization, nor is it very original. Countless thought leaders around the world stress the importance of successfully handling regret.
The reason that most of us conduct our lives in a state of prolonged regret is not because we are unaware of the weight of it, but the because we are more afraid of acute pain of fixing it than we are of chronic pain of sustaining regret.
People avoid surgeries to repair worn out joints and muscles because the fear of the acute pain of the surgeon’s scalpel, somehow outranks that of endless constant nagging presented by enduring disfunction.